Chivalry is dead. At the very least, it’s dying. Okay, to my thinking, it’s definitely on the decline. Yes? Come on, it can’t just be me thinking this. No?
Recently, I’ve watched a group of men not so much as flinch when a woman almost tripped over a microphone stand in church. Only 1 of about 4 moved a muscle. As he jumped up, he reached for the microphone stand. Not the woman, he got up to rescue the microphone stand! Now, doesn’t that say it all?
On another occasion, I struggled back and forth with some very heavy coolers of food while a group of guys stood by and chatted away. And on the last trip, one of them had the effrontery to ask me for some food. Of course he received the dirtiest look ever given. And of course I gave him a piece of my mind and told him where to put his request. Of course, he immediately reached out to help me. And of course I told him to shove it, because obviously he was only helping for the food.
It’s just sad. Oh and side note: no longer is vanity the sin of women. Men have jumped on the vain and selfish bandwagon and even taken over sef.
To me, a man standing idly by while a woman is in need of help is just as bad as not giving up your seat for elderly or pregnant people on the bus/train/wherever, or watching your mum struggle with something. It’s just wrong. I’ve watched a guy wait for a girl to open the door. I find such scenes (at the risk of going a bit overboard here) disgusting.
This is degenerating into a rant, but I just can’t help it. It really, genuinely irks me. Maybe it’s an upbringing thing. How I grew up, the men got the job done. Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s not that the women sat down looking pretty and wringing their hands. No, the women got the job dome too. Never will you catch me waiting for someone to do what needs to be done (case-in-point: me and the coolers). But to me, the men should just naturally step up, or at the very least offer. Especially when it comes to physical things. This might also have to do with the fact that my stature is what you might call “slight”.
Here’s what I think. Women assuming more prominent roles in the world doesn’t give men a reason to jettison responsibility. I know there are feminist women out there who flat-out refuse to let men help them in any way; because they believe it propagates the view that women are weak. But the way I see it, that doesn’t stop you (men) from offering. There are more women presidents and CEOs on the way, this is no reason for men to be any less courteous, respectful, or helpful. I don’t think good manners will ever go out of fashion.
For humanity’s sake where are the men?