Dads, Nuts and Kept Women

Yes, you are looking at a photo of dad spelled out in groundnut husks.


Well, I’ll start with how I’m a super mega huge fan of boiled groundnuts. The crack, the crunch, the taste just give me life. Every year, a massive festival goes on in my heart in honour of the first nuts of the season. No jokes, evidence below:

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While the world is falling apart… You are gods.


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Yesterday, 2 years to the day the Chibok girls were kidnapped, there was special coverage of the events surrounding the incident on  CNN.

And this is what the Spirit says to me (and possibly someone else out there):

“God is in charge of the great meeting; he judges among the “gods.” He says, “How long will you defend evil people? How long will you show greater kindness to the wicked? Defend the weak and the orphans; defend the rights of the poor and suffering. Save the weak and helpless; free them from the power of the wicked. “You know nothing. You don’t understand. You walk in the dark, while the world is falling apart. I said, ‘You are “gods.” You are all sons of God Most High.’ But you will die like any other person; you will fall like all the leaders.” God, come and judge the earth, because you own all the nations.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭82:1-8‬ ‭(NCV‬‬)

Must I come first? Thoughts On Ranking…

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“…. But they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.” 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NKJV)

I’ve had this topic in my mind to write about for a while now. I had just picked up my computer to start, when a young girl asked me a question that so perfectly tied in with the thoughts in my head. Here’s how the conversation went:

She asked, “Who came first in your class?” read the rest of the convo

Who Are You?


To stop my brain from degenerating and possibly exploding during a 13-hour layover, I march to the airport bookstore and spend the next half-hour searching for the perfect book. When I read the synopsis of Me Before You by someone named Jojo Moyes, I know I have exactly what I need. Continue reading

There’s no way a’thank You’ post wasn’t happening

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Sometimes I get forgetful, and I become proud in my achievements and supposed competence. In those times, I have to ‘remind’ myself to be grateful/ But there are other times, that I know that I know that I know that there is absolutely no way I did whatever it was by myself. The writing of my dissertation was one of such times. Continue reading

Cast Your Burdens… But…

While listening to one of my favourite songs right now (video above), I had a thought. You see, this song is sort of my comfort song. On one hand, I remember that I have a ‘ride or die’, a friend forever, someone who’s got my back (Jesus). On the other hand, it’s a gentle reminder that I can’t do anything by myself (John 15:5), and the one person I should be consulting/running to is Jesus.

So after going through my over-thinking routine for about an hour, I picked up my phone to listen to this song, stem the thoughts, and talk to Him about it. One passage always comes to mind while I listen to it and it’s this: Matthew 11:28-30 (NCV):

28 “Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. 29 Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives. 30 The burden that I ask you to accept is easy; the load I give you to carry is light.”

And it struck me that Jesus does ask us to cast our burdens. Yes, He does want us to not be burdened, or worried, or pained. But that’s not all, it doesn’t stop there. It’s not like ‘Here Jesus, it’s all yours.’ You drop it in His lap, flex out the kinks in your muscles and walk away. Nope. He requires something of you. The 30th verse of that chapter clearly says ‘the burden I ask you to accept’. The 29th verse in the New King James Version says, ‘Take My yoke upon you.’ He expects you to take His burden which apparently is easy and light. But it’s still something.

It occurred to me that recently, I’ve been approaching Jesus as a sort of dumping ground – a dumping ground where I go to offload my garbage. But I’m being reminded that it’s so much more than that. I have a responsibility. I have a burden to carry. It’s ‘light’ but it’s there. It’s all well and good to give Jesus my worries and my aches, but He has aches and worries He wants me to share too. He worries about the souls of His creation. He aches that some don’t know Him. He worries that many have turned away. He aches that His glory isn’t exalted.

At least, that’s what I think 😀 . It’s high time I get up off my butt. And if by any chance, you can identify with me, you know what to do. Well maybe not exactly, but you have an idea. 😉


When Your Heart Can’t Take It Anymore


I am once again in a position where I am questioning the worth-value of romantic (for want of a better word, but just so I’m clear) relationships. This is only the second time (‘once again’ sounds really bad), but it’s definitely two times too many for me. Let’s face it, committing yourself to loving someone that way is pretty much handing over a gun/knife/flamethrower/bomb detonation button/ grenade launcher (enter your weapon of choice) and saying, ‘Here, I’ve decided to give you the power to kill or at least maim me for life. Use it as you wish.’ Continue reading

I am a Passionate Woman

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Nope, this is not a self-affirmation post. Please bear with the title. 😀

Nobody told me life would be like this.” That’s something I’ve heard my father say a number of times, and I don’t think statements get truer than that.

Recently, I was trying to imagine what a friend of mine thinks of me (Don’t judge me, I tend to over-think things. I could just have asked, and saved the mental exertion for other things, right?). It was during this intellectual sojourn that I thought, “I wonder if he thinks I’m a passionate woman.”  Continue reading

Redefining Success

A man (by ‘man’, I mean humankind- both male and female) is generally measured as successful based on two things: his marriage (and family), and his career. I once heard someone saying, “At her age, she should be thinking of her marriage and career.” I believe those are the two things that the majority of humanity lives for.* Once an individual is “of age”, done with education, he/she starts looking for:

  1. a job (preferably one with upward mobility possibilities), and
  2. the one person they plan on spending the rest of their life with.

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Oh Happy Day!

It’s a beautiful day! Not just because the sun is shining in its gorgeous glory; or because I’m wearing the cutest earrings and my ankara skirt 😉 ; or because it’s a Sunday; or because I’m in a good mood… It’s because today, I (along with majority of the world) am celebrating Easter. There is a little difference though. I’m not celebrating just the fact that it’s a four-day weekend, or that I get to hang out with friends and do fun things like egg hunts. For me, it’s more than cute rabbits and chocolate eggs (I don’t even get how those came into the picture). It’s all about JesusJoin the celebration